I just so happen to be moving out of my apartment in a week and I have no idea where I’m going. I’ll repeat that in case you just skipped over that point.
I have to move out of my apartment in a week and I have no idea where I’m going.
And I can’t help but be reminded of just last year when I was moving from couch to couch for six months while attempting to rebuild my life after leaving everything behind to backpack Europe and start a new chapter. There are good parts and bad parts about not knowing where you’re going to live next week or month, and although exciting, it can be extremely stressful.
And… I’m pretty much freaking out.
But the more friends I talk to, the more I realize that I’m not alone. Moving in itself is absolutely stressful. It doesn’t matter how much money you make, where you live, or how much stuff you have – moving just plain sucks. And it’s a necessary evil. So I’m writing this post not only to vent but to also offer a few suggestions on how to stay sane during your upcoming/next move.
1. Apartment fate is a real thing.
Too many options are not a good thing for an incredibly indecisive person like myself. You’re not just online browsing through 600+ picture perfect listings on Craigslist – you’re filtering through beautiful apartments that are too expensive, horribly sketchy apartments that are within budget, apartments with sky-high broker fees and those that shouldn’t even be considered a living space. Once you’ve spent 4+ hours a day sifting through them, you have to make the time to actually go see them. And you finally find one that is perfect, only to find out that you haven’t been approved by the landlord, or that your pet isn’t allowed.
I always tell people (and should be telling myself) that apartment fate is a real thing. The spot you’re meant to find, you will find. Last year, I signed my lease at 8:30pm, the night before I moved in. It may not come down to the last minute where you live, but in New York City, it’s very likely that you’ll be freaking out down to the very last week. But the place that you are meant to find, will find its way to you.
2. Stay positive.
It is absolutely necessary to stay positive during a stressful time like this! Your life is already stressful as it is – now pack on a whole bunch of additional tasks + responsibilities + the fear of unknown, and you’re like a ticking time bomb ready to explode. Call a friend and vent for a few minutes. Treat yourself to cheesecake after dinner. Put in an extra few reps at the gym to blow off some steam.
Do what you have to do to keep a positive mindset.
It will all get done, and you are more than capable of making this all happen! Keep telling yourself this, however many times you need, and you’ll get through it.
3. Make a checklist.
Everything you need to do before and after you move – write it down. This will help you stay focused on your tasks, but more importantly – help you realize that it’s not impossible to do everything you need to do in the time that you have.
Take it one task at a time, and when you’re finished – cross it off your list. Exhale. Start next task. Repeat.
When I see everything that I need to do in front of me on paper, it’s easier to not let the anxiety overwhelm me into feeling like I can’t get everything done.
4. Take a week or two before to throw stuff away.
The other day, I was organizing some of my things to throw away items that I hadn’t used (hello, hoarder?). I realized that I had literally moved unopened boxes from apartment to apartment, and those items were sitting in that same box for over a year. AN ENTIRE YEAR. Among those items included 4 millions chapsticks, 3 full packs of bobby pins and a black wallet that I had completely forgotten about – so much so, that I had bought the exact same wallet thinking that I needed it.
We often keep too many items that we simply don’t need, for fear that we might need it ‘one day.’ This thinking only crowds us in, and it makes it way more difficult to move out. Not to mention the fact that there will just be more to move.
Donate old clothes that you haven’t worn for at least a year, or sell them at a consignment store. Keep the clutter out, and you’ll find it easier to clean, move and even breathe.
I would recommend following the KonMari Method, created by Marie Kondo, a Japanese organizing consultant and author. One of the main principles of the KonMari Method is keeping only possessions which “spark joy.” Kondo’s best-seller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing has been published in more than 30 countries. So she must be doing something right, right?
5. Make cleaning a week-long process.
It is far easier to clean little by little throughout the week, then to drive yourself crazy trying to clean the entire place last minute. The team over at Fantastik asked me to ‘come clean’ and confess about not being so clean. And here it is:
That’s right. It’s been a year and I haven’t even stepped foot underneath my bed. That’s not even the beginning. I think I was more scared at the thought of cleaning my apartment than the fact that I have no idea where I’m going next week! But cleaning it from top to bottom is obviously necessary, and I wasn’t about to put it off until the weekend. So with the help of Fantastik Scrubbing Bubbles, I got a jump start on my move-out cleaning. Here we go!
P.S. watch my instagram video to see this in action! Using this one cleaner + a roll of paper towels for my glass table, countertops, stove and even on my floors made it a lot easier than having to pull out ten different kinds of cleaners. Plus it’s antibacterial + sanitizes. I haven’t gotten to the bathroom yet (EEK!), so wish me luck.
And voila – there’s just something about clean tables that make me feel so much better.
Big thanks to Fantastik for sponsoring this post and for making cleaning this place a lot easier for me. Now I’m going to get back to throwing unnecessary stuff away, looking up apartments on Craigslist, and trying to not pull my hair out in the process. Wish me luck!
Thank you so much for reading this post. Do you have any suggestions on how to stay sane + positive while moving? Please leave a comment for us below!