I used to be a planner. Many times, anxious-riddenly so — constantly thinking about what I needed to do to get to where I wanted to be.  I tried to stay ten steps ahead, so planning came naturally to me.

But the thought of not having a plan was one that I couldn’t handle with grace — the questions would build up in my head and anxiety would creep in to have me worrying more about what could go wrong, instead of being excited about the journey itself.

What if I don’t have enough packed? What if I’m not getting paid enough and what if I end up doing all this work for nothing? What if my flight crashes and I die before I get to cross everything off my bucket list? What if she doesn’t like me and is trying to get me fired? What if I’m not good enough? What if I don’t pass this test?

Enter, snowball of emotions and fearful worries.

I guess that’s why when I decided to drop everything to travel the world for the first time, I did so without that much of a plan.  I was at the point in my life where I needed a complete life change.  And part of that came with having blind trust and faith that things would just ‘work out’.

I wasn’t coached into this shifted way of thinking by anyone because almost everyone around me was a planner as well.

Society gifted us with an easy-to-follow guide on how to live a happy life:

  • Go to a good school.
  • Go to a better university.
  • Find a good job.
  • Find a better job.
  • Get married.
  • Buy a house.
  • Have kids.

What they don’t tell you is how many unplanned events can happen and completely disrupt your plans – and life.

I had planned to climb up the corporate ladder in New York City, make enough money to appear to make a lot of money and stack up my closet into a pinterest-worthy photograph.

I had planned to make it ‘big’ – pursue my passions and discover my ‘million-dollar-idea’ to become rich and put my family on a yacht after buying my father the Porsche he always wanted.

And then all my plans went to sh-t.  Because then my father died.

(READ: 10 Things I Learned While Dealing With The Death Of A Loved One)

I went from having a fine-tuned idea of what my life should look like – to having it flipped completely upside down and my grand plans rendered useless.  That’s the thing about life — there are no guarantees but the guarantee of having something unexpected happen out of the blue.

So I started shifting my mentality and expectations of my future – to one that invited the idea that things can happen that change the course of your life.  I started inviting the idea that sometimes, not having a plan is okay.

Sometimes, not having a plan is better than having one.

In the last 8 months, I’ve flown all across the world in the most inconvenient fashion.  I had to cancel much of my planned itinerary because of unexpected events.



This last February, I had planned to go to Bali to settle into a healthy routine for a few months.  I found an apartment near the ocean, nestled in a peaceful surf town. It was exactly what I needed. I rented the room and a scooter for a month, along with a monthly yoga pass.  I had plans to stay for a while, get unpacked and make it my new home.

Karma Kandara, Bali | Travel | @projectinspo

Then I got a text message from my mother back in the States saying that my grandmother had become very ill – and that we didn’t know how much time we had left.

So that night, I booked a one-way flight to Washington, D.C. for that following week.  I cancelled the apartment and got a refund for my yoga pass.

I flew over 33 hours to go back to the States.  I could have planned to come back to Bali afterwards, but I didn’t know what would happen with my grandmother.

So I put my escape-to-Bali-and-settle-there-for-a-while plan on hold, and decided that I would take it all as it came.  Because plans can change.

Inspiration | @ProjectInspo

After a few weeks at home and my grandmother became stable again, I booked a two-week trip to Nicaragua.  I planned to stay at a surf camp for a week, then head up to El Salvador for another week.  Two weeks total.  I even bought a return flight back to New York (very unlike me).

I didn’t expect to meet five other travelers who I’d bond with during that week in El Salvador, only to invite me to come back to Nicaragua with them.  They somehow convinced me to cancel my return flight.

They even convinced me to jump off waterfalls into natural pools for the first time.



I had never met people on the road and continued traveling with them.  This was a first for me.  

Just like that – my plan to return back to New York was cancelled.

And I ended up having the next two months be filled with some of the happiest moments in my life – through which I’ve met wonderful strangers who I can now call friends.

Inspiration | @ProjectInspo

Fast-forward a few months later and I’m playing tourist in London, spending a week and a half cycling around the city, snapping photos around Trafalgar Square, tasting curries in Shoreditch and crashing on couches with old Brooklyn friends in Hackney.

Inspiration | @ProjectInspo

I wake up on a Saturday morning in my hostel bed to 15 missed calls and text messages informing me that my grandmother had passed away while I was sleeping.  And the funeral was the following Monday.

I had just two days to make it back to the States.  Scrambling, I searched for the cheapest one-way flight back, and $700 later, I found myself on a train to the airport to catch the same-day flight to New York City I booked just a few hours before.

Life doesn’t always go according to plan, and I’ve come to accept this as fact. Because of this, I spend less time worrying about what could happen, and instead enjoy where I am in this very moment.  I’ve learned to appreciate the present much more than I used to.

Travel Inspiration | @projectinspoSometimes, when you’re open to life leading you (instead of you leading your own life), you open up the door for unexpectedly beautiful things to come your way – and many of these things will become the moments you cherish the most.

So maybe you should plan to have no plan. Because sometimes, having no plan can turn out to be the best plan of all.

Travel Inspiration | @projectinspo


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  • So sorry to hear about your family losses. But you are right–things don’t go to plan. It can be hard for someone who has been a straight-A student, reliable for doing the right thing, to find that there’s no right thing, or that things go wrong anyway. The happiest people I know are the ones who put family first and “success” second.

  • Love this post. I know how it feels to lose so many people that you are close to in a short space of time. Your enthusiasm and ability to adapt to the situation is inspiring and so lovely to read about. Your time in Nicaragua sounded amazing and I hope that you get to enjoy that retreat in Bali eventually!

  • So sorry to hear about your losses but it seems it’s made you a stronger and more ambitious person!

  • This is such a great article which reminds me to take everything slowly and just concentrate on the present moment. That’s all that is guaranteed anyway. Yes, plans do change, and I often struggle with making peace changing my plans when the unexpected comes up; I just admire your ability to flow with everything so gracefully and hope that somehow, I will be able to, also. I’m already on the road to ‘flowing’ with the unexpected, I abruptly quit my job two years ago to pursue writing, practice meditation, yoga and find inner peace. Thinking that I may have to find a ‘real job’ in the years to come has been looming over my head -maybe I should not be so concerned.

  • This is such an inspirational post with a really important message. I have shared this on my social media and it is so relevant to my current situation. I’m so sorry for the loss you had to deal with- that is shocking how close those events were together. It’s amazing how you have gained something from those dark times and found positive energy in your life. Thank you so much for sharing your story xx

  • This is the best piece I have read today. I was just about to go home from work and then I came across your post. So sad and touching yet so inspirational at the same time. I am so sorry for your loss. You are so right in what you are saying and I am sure your granny and dad are very proud of you. Thanks for sharing this with us.
    Best of luck, Nicole

  • I recently had two road trips with a general plan in mind, which turned to be a “make plans at each moment!”. Those were my most fun and joyful trips I had. Sorry for your loss, and hanks for your great writing about your experience 🙂

  • Thank you for this post. It eases my anxiety about not being where I want to be.

  • Ugh, it’s so hard losing someone suddenly! Totally through me for a loop the first few times, but definitely helped me understand how precious life is. Lovely photos!

  • Not having a plan is so much better! I love the freedom of flexible employment and the privilege of being able to add / cancel / change travel plans, jobs, classes, etc when needed.