This is the craziest, wisest decision I’ve ever made. Now, how do I say, “I need a drink” in German?


Europe always seemed like a fairy-tale to a girl that grew up and never moved out of her hometown in Dallas, Texas. But I knew that I needed to fulfill my dream of moving abroad and immersing myself in a culture that I was totally unfamiliar with.


I’ve always been itching to move abroad. But I was scared.


I am married with two dogs, my parents less than 10 miles from my house, and I have a mortgage payment. How can I make sure a drastic change?  Full disclosure: I did this without any support. We had no jobs lined up, no family or friends that live here, and my husband and I just picked up and shipped out to a country we’ve never stepped foot in: Germany.



1. Finding a place to live is REALLY hard.

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I own my home in Texas and moved briefly to Nashville, finding an apartment relatively easily. I thought renting a flat would be a piece of cake. I went ahead and made tentative reservations at a hotel for a week while I looked for a flat. Wrong. So wrong.

To find a place to live, you can find a real estate agent (which is expensive), check classifieds (just make sure you can read the language!), reach out to other expats in Facebook groups and online forums, or knock on doors.

Desperate, and without a home base for 3 weeks, I went directly to apartment companies paces of businesses. This seemed to help, since the language barrier was lessened and I was able to describe the living situation I preferred.

But the best thing I learned? Understand the customs of the community. Where I live in Germany, it’s normal to just outright say you are ready to sign a contract, even if others are standing with you, looking at the same apartment. This culture difference is why I lost out on the first few I looked at. Boldness was key for me, and it might be different depending on where you go.



2. It’s okay to question why you did this.



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One of the best parts about living somewhere brand new is that you will discover new things about the place you live, the culture, and even yourself. This is good and you should embrace it.

Sure, you might take public transportation to the totally wrong place. You might not understand the directions of the man with the thick foreign accent (or better yet, he might not understand you), and you will have feelings of complete lost.

You will miss your friends and family and the comfort of your home life. You will question why you decided to make this crazy decision. You’ll wonder how you ended up here and what you’re really doing with your life?!?!

But then, you will have moments of complete clarity and bliss that will make all the chaos worth the struggle.



3. Everything will feel out of your comfort zone.

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Image via Me Oh My Girl

It could be the newness of it all, the culture, or just a language barrier, but things will be very different.  The customs of the culture and community are so different and it takes some getting used to.

For me, now living in Germany but originally coming from Texas – I was told people are “cold” or unfriendly. One thing that I’ve learned is to embrace it.

Try your best to understand “their way” and learn their set of rules. For example, Germans NEVER cross the street at a stoplight unless they are told to go. This is hard for someone who’s just ready to go-go-go! But following their traditions helped me to smoothly assimilate into their society.

I know it can feel scary and different, but try new things out. Taste the food, try the wine, learn the language, and of course meet new people.

A great way to do that is by joining “meet up” groups. There are events that are put together for outings of small or large groups. People from all walks of life come, and you learn about so many different people. It’s a totally different approach to making friends and so far, it’s been one of the coolest ways to get to meet and interact with locals and expats.

Look up local holidays. This will help you navigate the cultural landscape of wherever you live. Having a list might even warn you about impending days off, time changes, and even whether or not you can park your car on the street.

Yes, you can do your research beforehand, but until you’re immersed in it, you will feel like life is totally different. And that’s a good thing.



4. Pack light. Seriously.


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When I moved abroad I only packed two suitcases. My whole life was encased in a zip up case that held up to 50 pounds of my stuff.

I thought, “wow, I am REALLY downsizing!”

Looking back, I wish I would have just left the socks and sweaters behind, as these can all be replaced. It’s truly freeing to get rid of your stuff and start fresh.

Also, if you saved up some money you can buy the things you really need when you arrive.

If you’re planning to come back within a few years, store what you can’t part with.  Purge the stuff that takes up room, chances are you can find it in a store or online for a small price. Get rid of your furniture, kitchen, clothes, and other items. I suggest hosting a garage sale to make some extra cash for when you do more.



5. Go with the flow.

Image via Girl Meets Glam

Image via Girl Meets Glam

I am an orderly person. I like to make to-do lists and checklists. But since moving abroad, I learned quickly that it’s necessary to roll with the punches.

There will be plot twists and things that come up out of your control. Just remember that they make for a great story.

The unknown is something you’re bound to face as you meander this brand new world. The more you go with the flow, the happier you will be and the less stress you’ll endure.

You also get a free pass to cry once in a while. Not saying you shouldn’t get mad or sad, but just realize why you started this epic adventure in the first place and it will help to ease your mind.

I remember how it felt when we were scrambling and searching for a place to live – it was utter chaos. I had been living out of a suitcase for over 2 months, stayed in a cramped hotel, and was desperate for a place of my own. I felt like it would never happen. But eventually I found the ideal place to call home.



6. Find time to get lost.


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When you first arrive there is so much to do: set up your phone, find a place to live, get internet access, figure out transportation… the list goes on. And you probably want to hit the highlights of your new city and see all it has to offer. But don’t forget to take some time to yourself to just explore.

Walk down alleyways and find corners you’ve never heard of. Walk aimlessly and discover something new. Find what others haven’t yet, and venture off on your own. It will help you gain an understanding of your new city and it will give you perspective.



7. You will miss, and be missed.


Making this life decision means that you’re going to miss some big things at home: weddings, funerals, graduations, you name it. The people that care about your will understand why you can’t make it. They are the ones that will miss you and keep in touch with you.

Others won’t understand why you can’t be there for them. Some of your relationships will become tense. Just know that you have to make the right decision for you.

Sometimes, it will hurt your feelings. Even if people were once close to you, you won’t be asked to be a groomsman or bridesmaid because your presence can’t be guaranteed. Getting invited at all will be a bonus.

Just know that you are missed, but just like you have to live your life, they have to live theirs. Don’t forget to extend invitations for friends to come visit you. You might be shocked at who shows up!



8. This decision will change your life in more ways than one.


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Whether you want it to or not, moving abroad changes who you are as a person. It widens your perspective and helps you view the world in a different way.

You are getting a brand new dose of culture, experience, and life. Embrace this change and let it teach you about the world around you, and yourself.

It’s scary and exciting and yes, it’s one of the best decisions you will ever make.

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Are you thinking of moving abroad or have already? Leave us a comment below and let us know what you wish you’d known!


14 COMMENTS ON "8 Things I Wish I Knew Before Moving To A Foreign Country"


23 days 18 hours ago
When I graduated from university last I was planning on moving to Germany for 6 months to learn the culture and improve my language (I studied German at school). But, long story short, life got in the way, and I think more than anything I was scared of making such a huge change. Reading this has comforted me that I haven’t missed the opportunity, and it’s something that I definitely still want to (and can) do – so many people I know in London have moved from countries and cultures that are so different, in some cases becoming fluent in… READ MORE »
23 days 3 hours ago
Yes! Great points Helene! When I lived overseas the first time, I moved to a city I had never been to as well. #7 was the hardest – Missing and being missed. I was completely surprised at who actually came to visit me, and it usually wasn’t the people who I was closest too or expecting! It forged new friendships, sifted out who was willing to put forth the effort I was putting so much effort into back home, and gave me a new support group that was stronger than anything I could have planned! You are doing so great!
23 days 2 hours ago

wow, your blog is great! hope you like your time in Budapest.
Would be happy if you would be visiting mine , too :

22 days 14 hours ago

Great pointers. Have been thinking about moving abroad for a while now. Since it’s still just an idea, I’m more excited than anxious.
– Charmaine

22 days 11 hours ago

I packed so light when I moved to LA and came back with way too much stuff. This is a really fab post and definitely relatable!

Abigail Alice x

21 days 19 hours ago

Loved reading this post! I briefly moved abroad for University and we had to take care of housing and much of the move ourselves which was quite and interesting experience. You learn a lot about a new culture and especially about yourself and how to handle such a big change. Thanks for sharing! =o)

21 days 12 hours ago

Really helpful thanks! I’m hoping to go abroad for a year next year and you have some great ideas! Looking up national/regional holidays is a great idea, as well as the exploring bit!

20 days 22 hours ago

Great tips! I’m really want to move abroad for a year or so in the near future, I’m quite nervous though! Solo travelling is a must on my bucket-list.

17 days 21 hours ago

This is such an amazing post! You should be so proud that you moved abroad and didn’t look back. I would love to move to another country but i am so so scared. I moved away for university, and although it wasn’t far it gave me that independence and it’s given me that itch to go somewhere further and just explore and live in another culture.

14 days 12 hours ago

Its a great experience living in another country but you have to be equipped mentally as well. The exploring is nice but I find it very hard making friends outside of work!

10 days 21 hours ago

Thank you for this post. I’ve never had the nerve to move to a foreign country, but it sounds like the next adventure in my book.

– Charmaine

10 days 11 hours ago

i just moved to bristol to study its my first time so far away from home (although back in malaysia i didnt live with my parents) it still feels scary and amazing at the same time! making friends is truly hard i think i’ll just have to give it some time x

all the best to you!

5 days 23 hours ago

A similar thing happened to me and my gf when we moved to Vienna. We thought we’d find a place in a week, but it took almost a month. It ended up costing us twice as much that month on Air Bnb as we had to stay in 3 different places instead of just booking one place on a month’s rate. Fun times 🙂

4 days 12 hours ago

Oh my goood, welcome to Germany!!! It’s rather interesting and also very funny to read the perspectives of people about Germans, who just moved here. (Oh and I NEVER cross the street, when the traffic light’s red.) I know Heidelberg as one of the few cities where it’s damn hard to find a flat. That list goes on with Berlin, Cologne (Köln), Hamburg and Hannover. I think, you’re lucky to live in one of the most beautiful parts which Germany has to offer. So enjoy your time and keep discovering! <3

Best wishes,